I remember going home from the hospital iafter giving birth to my first child as a traumatic experience: the transition from an atmosphere of peace, tranquility and a controlled by doctors and nurses to the routine without a routine. After the homecoming in fact, you expect to be able to resume a regular life, with your habits and instead you realize that the habits are hopelessly compromised and they must adapt and make space to new ones other, led by a tiny creature that imposed herself in the rhythms of the family with the stubbornness of a dictator.
Sometimes you spend days without seeing anyone and it can happen that you don't want to dress up or to care about yourself as you should.
The day is marked by the meals of the newborn and you still don't feel perfectly good after the childbirth. Moreover, when leaving hospital, you do not lose all the pounds of the pregnancy and your belly may look like the one of a six month pregnant woman. You can imagine the frustration. But it is much better for the second child because at least you are prepared.
So, it is a very peculiar moment in which, some mothers can get to suffer from postpartum depression, others, like me the first time, just a bit 'of melancholy.
This time it went much better since I was much more confident in the baby care and this prevents a lot of frustration; I already knew that my body was not 100% fit, so I properly calibrated expectations. Moreover, for the second childbirth, everything is usually easier and less painful.
I have also tried to avoid being locked in the house, and so, by the fifth day, we started hanging out and doing business as usual. Finally, the big sister was waiting for us at home, with her warm welcome. And this makes it all different!
Sometimes you spend days without seeing anyone and it can happen that you don't want to dress up or to care about yourself as you should.
The day is marked by the meals of the newborn and you still don't feel perfectly good after the childbirth. Moreover, when leaving hospital, you do not lose all the pounds of the pregnancy and your belly may look like the one of a six month pregnant woman. You can imagine the frustration. But it is much better for the second child because at least you are prepared.
So, it is a very peculiar moment in which, some mothers can get to suffer from postpartum depression, others, like me the first time, just a bit 'of melancholy.
This time it went much better since I was much more confident in the baby care and this prevents a lot of frustration; I already knew that my body was not 100% fit, so I properly calibrated expectations. Moreover, for the second childbirth, everything is usually easier and less painful.
I have also tried to avoid being locked in the house, and so, by the fifth day, we started hanging out and doing business as usual. Finally, the big sister was waiting for us at home, with her warm welcome. And this makes it all different!